Wednesday 5 October 2016
Palpitation
What is palpitation?
These palpitations may feel particularly unpleasant
Normal heart rhythms
Normal electrical signals in the heart
While you are resting, your heart’s pacemaker
quickly and powerfully to pump out more blood, to
“My heart sometimes seems to have an
supraventricular tachycardia.
There are two main types of supraventricular tachycardia
1-AVNRT (atrioventricular nodal re-entranttachycardia)
usually involves the AV node
2-AVRT (atrioventricular re-entrant tachycardia)
happens when there is an abnormal
connection between the atria and the
ventricles. This is often seen in people who
have Wolff-Parkinson-White syndrome.
If you have AVNRT or AVRT, you may need to be
referred to a specialist centre for more detailed
tests and treatment.
Ventricular tachycardia
Ventricular tachycardia is a condition where there
is an abnormally fast rate – between 120 and 200
beats a minute – in the ventricles (the two lower
chambers of the heart). This may be caused
by increased activity of the electrical impulses to
the ventricles.
This condition usually happens as a complication of
a heart condition, but it is also sometimes seen in
otherwise healthy people. The attacks may last for
just a few seconds or minutes, or may continue for
some hours. The first symptoms may be faintness,
or fast, regular palpitations with breathlessness and
sometimes chest pain. An electrocardiogram
(ECG) will show whether it is ventricular tachycardia or another type of abnormal heart rhythm
Anyone with symptoms needs to get medical
help immediately as it might be necessary to
have an injection, or an electric shock
(cardioversion), to stop the attack. However,
many attacks of ventricular tachycardia do stop
on their own.
Your doctor may give you a drug to help prevent
future attacks. You may need to have an
electrophysiological study to help your doctors
plan the best way of managing your tachycardia.
This test is described on page 22.
If the drugs are not effective and you continue to
have frequent attacks, your doctor may suggest
another form of treatment. This could be one of
the following.
• Having an ICD implanted. ICD stands for
implantable cardioverter defibrillator. An ICD
continually monitors your heart rhythm and
delivers an electrical impulse or shock
whenever you have a ventricular tachycardia
attack, and returns the heart to its normal
rhythm.
• Catheter ablation therapy, which identifies and
removes or destroys the affected area which is
causing the abnormal rhythm.
These treatments a are described on pages 25-28.
The choice of treatment depends on your
condition. However, these treatments are not
suitable for everyone.
Stress Types
Your body reacts to stress by releasing hormones. These hormones make your brain more alert, cause your muscles to tense, and increase your pulse. In the short term, these reactions are good because they can help you handle the situation causing stress. This is your body’s way of protecting itself.
Before reading effects of stress on your body, its better to understand types of stress.
Types Of Stress:
PHYSICAL:
intense exertion, manual labor, lack of sleep, travel
CHEMICAL:
drugs, alcohol, caffeine, nicotine and environmental pollutants such as cleaning chemicals or pesticides
MENTAL:
perfectionism, worry, anxiety, long work hours
EMOTIONAL:
anger, guilt, loneliness, sadness, fear
NUTRITIONAL:
food allergies, vitamin and mineral deficiency
TRAUMATIC:
injuries or burns, surgery, illness, infections, extreme temperatures
PSYCHO-SPIRITUAL:
troubled relationships, financial or career pressures, challenges with life goals, spiritual alignment and general state of happiness
Basicaly Following are the main types of stress
Acute stress
Acute stress is the most common form of stress. It comes from demands and pressures of the recent past and anticipated demands and pressures of the near future. Acute stress is thrilling and exciting in small doses, but too much is exhausting. A fast run down a challenging ski slope, for example, is exhilarating early in the day. That same ski run late in the day is taxing and wearing. Skiing beyond your limits can lead to falls and broken bones. By the same token, overdoing on short-term stress can lead to psychological distress, tension headaches, upset stomach and other symptoms.
Fortunately, acute stress symptoms are recognized by most people. It’s a laundry list of what has gone awry in their lives: the auto accident that crumpled the car fender, the loss of an important contract, a deadline they’re rushing to meet, their child’s occasional problems at school and so on.
Because it is short term, acute stress doesn’t have enough time to do the extensive damage associated with long-term stress. The most common symptoms are:
- Emotional distress — some combination of anger or irritability, anxiety and depression, the three stress emotions.
- Muscular problems including tension headache, back pain, jaw pain and the muscular tensions that lead to pulled muscles and tendon and ligament problems.
- Stomach, gut and bowel problems such as heartburn, acid stomach, flatulence, diarrhea, constipation and irritable bowel syndrome.
- Transient over arousal leads to elevation in blood pressure, rapid heartbeat, sweaty palms, heart palpitations, dizziness, migraine headaches, cold hands or feet, shortness of breath and chest pain.
Acute stress can crop up in anyone’s life, and it is highly treatable and manageable.
Chronic stress
While acute stress can be thrilling and exciting, chronic stress is not. This is the grinding stress that wears people away day after day, year after year. Chronic stress destroys bodies, minds and lives. It wreaks havoc through long-term attrition. It’s the stress of poverty, of dysfunctional families, of being trapped in an unhappy marriage or in a despised job or career. It’s the stress that the never-ending “troubles” have brought to the people of Northern Ireland, the tensions of the Middle East have brought to the Arab and Jew, and the endless ethnic rivalries that have been brought to the people of Eastern Europe and the former Soviet Union.
Chronic stress comes when a person never sees a way out of a miserable situation. It’s the stress of unrelenting demands and pressures for seemingly interminable periods of time. With no hope, the individual gives up searching for solutions.
Some chronic stresses stem from traumatic, early childhood experiences that become internalized and remain forever painful and present. Some experiences profoundly affect personality. A view of the world, or a belief system, is created that causes unending stress for the individual (e.g., the world is a threatening place, people will find out you are a pretender, you must be perfect at all times). When personality or deep-seated convictions and beliefs must be reformulated, recovery requires active self-examination, often with professional help.
The worst aspect of chronic stress is that people get used to it. They forget it’s there. People are immediately aware of acute stress because it is new; they ignore chronic stress because it is old, familiar, and sometimes, almost comfortable.
Chronic stress kills through suicide, violence, heart attack, stroke and, perhaps, even cancer. People wear down to a final, fatal breakdown. Because physical and mental resources are depleted through long-term attrition, the symptoms of chronic stress are difficult to treat and may require extended medical as well as behavioral treatment and stress management.
Chronic stress comes when a person never sees a way out of a miserable situation. It’s the stress of unrelenting demands and pressures for seemingly interminable periods of time. With no hope, the individual gives up searching for solutions.
Some chronic stresses stem from traumatic, early childhood experiences that become internalized and remain forever painful and present. Some experiences profoundly affect personality. A view of the world, or a belief system, is created that causes unending stress for the individual (e.g., the world is a threatening place, people will find out you are a pretender, you must be perfect at all times). When personality or deep-seated convictions and beliefs must be reformulated, recovery requires active self-examination, often with professional help.
The worst aspect of chronic stress is that people get used to it. They forget it’s there. People are immediately aware of acute stress because it is new; they ignore chronic stress because it is old, familiar, and sometimes, almost comfortable.
Chronic stress kills through suicide, violence, heart attack, stroke and, perhaps, even cancer. People wear down to a final, fatal breakdown. Because physical and mental resources are depleted through long-term attrition, the symptoms of chronic stress are difficult to treat and may require extended medical as well as behavioral treatment and stress management.
Episodic acute stress
Who suffer acute stress frequently, whose lives are so disordered that they are studies in chaos and crisis. They’re always in a rush, but always late. If something can go wrong, it does. They take on too much, have too many irons in the fire, and can’t organize the slew of self-inflicted demands and pressures clamoring for their attention. They seem perpetually in the clutches of acute stress.
It is common for people with acute stress reactions to be over aroused, short-tempered, irritable, anxious and tense. Often, they describe themselves as having “a lot of nervous energy.” Always in a hurry, they tend to be abrupt, and sometimes their irritability comes across as hostility. Interpersonal relationships deteriorate rapidly when others respond with real hostility. The workplace becomes a very stressful place for them.
The cardiac prone, “Type A” personality described by cardiologists, Meter Friedman and Ray Rosenman, is similar to an extreme case of episodic acute stress. Type A’s have an “excessive competitive drive, aggressiveness, impatience, and a harrying sense of time urgency.” In addition there is a “free-floating, but well-rationalized form of hostility, and almost always a deep-seated insecurity.” Such personality characteristics would seem to create frequent episodes of acute stress for the Type A individual. Friedman and Rosenman found Type A’s to be much more likely to develop coronary heat disease than Type B’s, who show an opposite pattern of behavior.
Another form of episodic acute stress comes from ceaseless worry. “Worry warts” see disaster around every corner and pessimistically forecast catastrophe in every situation. The world is a dangerous, unrewarding, punitive place where something awful is always about to happen. These “awfulizers” also tend to be over aroused and tense, but are more anxious and depressed than angry and hostile.
The symptoms of episodic acute stress are the symptoms of extended over arousal: persistent tension headaches, migraines, hypertension, chest pain and heart disease. Treating episodic acute stress requires intervention on a number of levels, generally requiring professional help, which may take many months.
Often, lifestyle and personality issues are so ingrained and habitual with these individuals that they see nothing wrong with the way they conduct their lives. They blame their woes on other people and external events. Frequently, they see their lifestyle, their patterns of interacting with others, and their ways of perceiving the world as part and parcel of who and what they are.
Sufferers can be fiercely resistant to change. Only the promise of relief from pain and discomfort of their symptoms can keep them in treatment and on track in their recovery program.
How ever each and every type of stress has its own effects on body. now you will read about these effects on the article below.
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Stress Effects On Your Body…!!!
How does stress affect health?
The human body is designed to experience stress and react to it. Stress can be positive, keeping you alert and ready to avoid danger. Stress becomes negative when a person faces continuous challenges without relief or relaxation between challenges. As a result, the person becomes overworked, and stress-related tension builds.
Stress that continues without relief can lead to a condition called distress, a negative stress reaction. Distress can lead to physical symptoms including headaches, upset stomach, elevated blood pressure, chest pain and problems with sleeping. Research suggests that stress can also bring on or worsen certain symptoms or diseases.
Stress also becomes harmful when people turn to alcohol, tobacco, or drugs to try to relieve their stress. Unfortunately, instead of relieving the stress and returning the body to a relaxed state, these substances tend to keep the body in a stressed state and cause more problems. Consider the following:
The Health and Safety Executive says around 10.4 million working days are lost each year to stress, depression or anxiety.
Occupations with the highest rates of work-related stress are social work, teaching and public administration.
The NHS says psychological problems, including stress, anxiety and depression, are behind one in five visits to a GP.
Stress can play a part in problems such as headaches, high blood pressure, heart problems, diabetes, skin conditions, asthma and arthritis.
Occupations with the highest rates of work-related stress are social work, teaching and public administration.
The NHS says psychological problems, including stress, anxiety and depression, are behind one in five visits to a GP.
Stress can play a part in problems such as headaches, high blood pressure, heart problems, diabetes, skin conditions, asthma and arthritis.
Common effects of stress
Indeed, stress symptoms can affect your body, your thoughts and feelings, and your behavior. Being able to recognize common stress symptoms can give you a jump on managing them. Stress that’s left unchecked can contribute to health problems, such as high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity and diabetes.
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Stress also becomes harmful when people use alcohol, tobacco, or drugs to try to relieve their stress. Unfortunately, instead of relieving the stress and returning the body to a relaxed state, these substances tend to keep the body in a stressed state and cause more problems. Consider the following:
Forty-three percent of all adults suffer adverse health effects from stress.
Seventy-five percent to 90% of all doctor’s office visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints.
Stress can play a part in problems such as headaches, high blood pressure, heart problems, diabetes, skin conditions, asthma, arthritis, depression, and anxiety.
The Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA) declared stress a hazard of the workplace. Stress costs American industry more than $300 billion annually.
The lifetime prevalence of an emotional disorder is more than 50%, often due to chronic, untreated stress reactions.
Seventy-five percent to 90% of all doctor’s office visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints.
Stress can play a part in problems such as headaches, high blood pressure, heart problems, diabetes, skin conditions, asthma, arthritis, depression, and anxiety.
The Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA) declared stress a hazard of the workplace. Stress costs American industry more than $300 billion annually.
The lifetime prevalence of an emotional disorder is more than 50%, often due to chronic, untreated stress reactions.
Gastrointestinal
Esophagus
When you’re stressed, you may eat much more or much less than you usually do. If you eat more or different foods, or increase your use of alcohol or tobacco, you can experience heartburn or acid reflux. Stress or exhaustion can also increase the severity of heartburn pain.
Stomach
When you’re stressed, your brain becomes more alert to sensations in your stomach. Your stomach can react with “butterflies” or even nausea or pain. You may vomit if the stress is severe enough. And, if the stress becomes chronic, you may develop ulcers or severe stomach pain even without ulcers.
Bowel
Stress can affect digestion, and what nutrients your intestines absorb. It can also affect how fast food moves through your body. You may find that you have either diarrhea or constipation.
Esophagus
When you’re stressed, you may eat much more or much less than you usually do. If you eat more or different foods, or increase your use of alcohol or tobacco, you can experience heartburn or acid reflux. Stress or exhaustion can also increase the severity of heartburn pain.
Stomach
When you’re stressed, your brain becomes more alert to sensations in your stomach. Your stomach can react with “butterflies” or even nausea or pain. You may vomit if the stress is severe enough. And, if the stress becomes chronic, you may develop ulcers or severe stomach pain even without ulcers.
Bowel
Stress can affect digestion, and what nutrients your intestines absorb. It can also affect how fast food moves through your body. You may find that you have either diarrhea or constipation.
Stress & Mental Health
Studies have shown a link between stress and mental health problems, the reason behind this connection has remained unclear. Recent research from the University of California, Berkeley, has discovered new insight into why stress can be so detrimental to a person’s psyche.
Previous research has found physical differences in the brains of people with stress disorders, such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and those without. One of the main distinctions is that the ratio of the brain’s white matter to gray matter is higher in those with stress-related mental disorders compared to those without.
Shrinks The Brain
Even for healthy people, stressful moments can take a toll on the brain, a new study from Yale University suggests.
Even for healthy people, stressful moments can take a toll on the brain, a new study from Yale University suggests.
Researchers reported in the journal Biological Psychiatry that stressful occasions — like going through a divorce or being laid off — can actually shrink the brain by reducing gray matter in regions tied to emotion and physiological functions. This is important because these
Raises Stroke Risk
Stressed-out people may have a higher stroke risk than their more mellowed-out peers, according to an observational study published in the Journal of Neurology, Neurosurgery and Psychiatry.
Stressed-out people may have a higher stroke risk than their more mellowed-out peers, according to an observational study published in the Journal of Neurology, Neurosurgery and Psychiatry.
“Compared with healthy age-matched individuals, stressful habits and type A behavior are associated with high risk of stroke.
Nervous System
The autonomic nervous system (ANS) is a vast network of nerves reaching out from the spinal cord, directly affecting every organ in the body. It has two branches, the sympathetic and the parasympathetic, which have opposite effects.
The sympathetic ANS helps us deal with stressful situations by initiating a ‘fight or flight’ reaction. After the danger has passed, the parasympathetic ANS takes over, decreasing heartbeat and relaxing blood vessels.
In healthy people, the two branches of the ANS maintain a balance — action followed by relaxation. Unfortunately many people’s sympathetic ANS stays on guard, making them unable to relax and let the parasympathetic system take over. If this situation becomes chronic, a whole variety of stress-related symptoms and illnesses can follow.
Mind and body are inextricably linked and the interaction between them can produce physical changes. Our brain notices a stressor, a physical reaction is triggered, and the reaction can lead to further emotional reactions and mental and physical damage. Some problems such as headaches and muscle tension are often directly caused by the bodily responses that accompany stress. Many other disorders, some say most, are aggravated by stress.
The human body is designed to withstand occasional extreme stress, so can survive quite a lot of pressure. It’s important to remember that most negative symptoms can be corrected if you take action. And there’s a lot of help available. If you are at all worried, do not delay in getting expert advice — your peace of mind is worth the effort. The problem will most likely not go away and the worst thing you can do is ignore it.
If you do develop a stress-related illness, at least you will have become familiar with your individual ‘weak point’, and will be able to keep a close eye on it. If similar symptoms creep back, take them very seriously as a warning. Take a close look at your current situation and ease off the pressure wherever possible. Most of the problems below aren’t life-threatening, and controlling your stress levels will help keep them at bay.
Sexual Desire
Women juggle personal, family, professional, financial and a broad range of other demands across their life span. Stress, distraction, fatigue, etc., may reduce sexual desire — especially when women are simultaneously caring for young children or other ill family members, coping with chronic medical problems, feeling depressed, experiencing relationship difficulties or abuse, dealing with work problems, etc.
Fat storage
“You can clearly correlate stress to weight gain,” says Philip Hagen, MD, an assistant professor of medicine at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minn.
Part of that link is due to poor eating during stress, but the stress hormone cortisol may also increase the amount of fat tissue your body hangs onto and enlarge the size of fat cells. Higher levels of cortisol have been linked to more deep-abdominal fat—yes, belly fat.
Heart Problems
Over the long term, people who react more to stress have a higher risk of cardiovascular disease. This risk particularly is linked to people who tend to be excessively competitive, impatient, hostile, and move and talk quickly. Of these characteristics, hostility is often pinpointed as the most significant.
The common stress response of eating comfort foods, with their accompanying fat and salt, is not beneficial to the heart either.
Skin Problems
Stress is known to aggravate skin problems such as acne, psoriasis and eczema. It also has been linked to unexplained itchy skin rashes. These skin problems are themselves intensely stressful.
Diabetes
There is some evidence that chronic stress may lead to insulin-dependent diabetes in people who are predisposed to the disease. It could be that stress causes the immune system to destroy insulin-producing cells.
Infertility
Stress does not normally cause infertility, but the two have been linked many times. People who are trying for a baby are more likely to conceive when on holiday or when facing little stress, and fertility treatment is more successful at these times too.
Pain
Continued stimulation of muscles through prolonged stress can lead to muscular pain such as backache. Together with our sedentary lifestyles and bad posture, this makes back, shoulder and neck ache extremely widespread.
Insomnia
Stress can cause hyperarousal, a biological state in which people just don’t feel sleepy.
Stress can cause hyperarousal, a biological state in which people just don’t feel sleepy.
While major stressful events can cause insomnia that passes once the stress is over, long-term exposure to chronic stress can also disrupt sleep and contribute to sleep disorders.
What to do? Focus on sleep hygiene (making your surroundings conducive to a good night’s rest) and try yoga or another stress-busting activity during the day.
Difficult to Control Your Emotions
It’s no secret that stressed people can fly off the handle. But new research tells us that how little stress is actually required for you to lose your cool.
It’s no secret that stressed people can fly off the handle. But new research tells us that how little stress is actually required for you to lose your cool.
A recent study by neuroscientists at New York University found that even mild levels of stress can impair our ability to keep a grip on our emotions. In their study, researchers taught subjects stress-control techniques. But after participants were put under mild stress by having their hands dunked in icy water, they couldn’t easily calm themselves down when shown pictures of snakes or spiders.
You Look Older
Chronic stress is a major contributor to premature aging.
Chronic stress is a major contributor to premature aging.
Researchers from the University of California, San Francisco discovered that stress shortens telomeres—structures on the end of chromosomes—so that new cells can’t grow as quickly. This leads to the inevitable signs of aging: wrinkles, weak muscles, poor eyesight, and more.
Weakens Your Immune System
The connection between mind and body are often underestimated, but everyone’s experienced a cold when they can least afford to. That’s because stress is so demanding on the body that the immune system suffers, making you more vulnerable to colds and infection.
The connection between mind and body are often underestimated, but everyone’s experienced a cold when they can least afford to. That’s because stress is so demanding on the body that the immune system suffers, making you more vulnerable to colds and infection.
Respiratory System
Stress can make you breathe harder. That’s not a problem for most people, but for those with asthma or a lung disease such as emphysema, getting the oxygen you need to breathe easier can be difficult.
And some studies show that an acute stress — such as the death of a loved one — can actually trigger asthma attacks, in which the airway between the nose and the lungs constricts.
In addition, stress can cause the rapid breathing — or hyperventilation — that can bring on a panic attack in someone prone to panic attacks.
Working with a psychologist to develop relaxation and breathing strategies can help.
Stress can make you breathe harder. That’s not a problem for most people, but for those with asthma or a lung disease such as emphysema, getting the oxygen you need to breathe easier can be difficult.
And some studies show that an acute stress — such as the death of a loved one — can actually trigger asthma attacks, in which the airway between the nose and the lungs constricts.
In addition, stress can cause the rapid breathing — or hyperventilation — that can bring on a panic attack in someone prone to panic attacks.
Working with a psychologist to develop relaxation and breathing strategies can help.
It’s no secret that stressed people can fly off the handle. But new research tells us that how little stress is actually required for you to lose your cool.
How To Deal With Jealous People…!!!
If you want success, then do not compare yourself to the person sitting next to you. You are not competing against anyone in this life but you. Focus on your own path and stay in tune with your goals. Remember: No one even achieved anything when they stopped trying, and no one is ever born an expert. Read success stories for motivation and know that if that one person achieved their goal, then you can too!
How to respond to a jealous or negative comment?
1. Do NOT take things personally! Usually when someone is actively negative, it has absolutely everything to do with them and nothing to do with you. You might actually notice that the person in question makes comments about everyone in a bad way, so no matter what you do or don’t do, you will be a topic of conversation for them.
2. Remember: What other people think about you is none of your business! You rocked this world with your successes and you should own that success. Be proud of yourself and stand tall! No one knows how hard you worked and no one has the right to judge you.
3. You cannot and never will please everyone. It’s just not possible, so let go of having to make everyone happy! Do your best to be compassionate, loving, genuine and honest but know that sometimes people will still not like you, even if you are a good person, and that’s okay! People even find reasons to not like the Dalai Lama, so come on!
4. Choose not to comment. Take the higher ground with negativity and simply do not acknowledge it. Look at it as a spiritual challenge and an opportunity to grow emotionally. Letting go of the need to reply is truly a remarkable release and you will find so much freedom there! Plus, it stops the energy of negativity dead in its tracks. Remember, you cannot have an argument with only one person. Think of yourself as bamboo, strong in your form but flexible to move in the wind. You can withstand any storm as long as you stay focused in your strength!
5. Be kind but practice safe distancing. If you see a pattern in one person who is continuously jabbing you with snide comments, then you should think about whether or not you want to have that person in your life. You are precious and your time is precious, so choose who you give your time to wisely. I often think the best thing to do is to be as compassionate and kind as you can but slowly distance yourself from the person, making it clear that you are not available. They will either change their tune and start getting more positive on their own, or they will set their sights to something or someone else.
6-When in doubt, send them love!
If you are absolutely unsure what to do with the negative Nelly in your life, then simply send them love! Especially if you catch yourself caught in the midst of “What?” “Why?” “How could they?” “Don’t they know that….” then it’s time to stop, close your eyes, and take a long deep breath. Visualize a huge white ray of love and light wrapping itself around Nelly filling him or her with Divine unconditional love. Watch and wait what happens. You will be amazed to see the change. Sometimes it’s even instant!
If you are absolutely unsure what to do with the negative Nelly in your life, then simply send them love! Especially if you catch yourself caught in the midst of “What?” “Why?” “How could they?” “Don’t they know that….” then it’s time to stop, close your eyes, and take a long deep breath. Visualize a huge white ray of love and light wrapping itself around Nelly filling him or her with Divine unconditional love. Watch and wait what happens. You will be amazed to see the change. Sometimes it’s even instant!
7-What if you feel envious of someone else?
Don’t beat yourself for being human if you have the occasional feeling of envy. It’s normal to feel a slight pang of envy when you see someone enjoying success. But, if you feel yourself being spiteful or speaking untruths about someone just to better your own position, then you need to get yourself in check. You will never reach your full healing potential if you stay stuck in the gutter of negativity, and the only person who continues to suffer is you! Jealousy is a monster of a negative emotion. It can literally make your liver run hot, stress your adrenal glands, deplete your body of minerals and make you more acidic just from the buildup of negative emotions. On the flip side, feeling mof compassion, love, acceptance, happiness and joy are all extremely alkalizing for the body and good for your health.
Don’t beat yourself for being human if you have the occasional feeling of envy. It’s normal to feel a slight pang of envy when you see someone enjoying success. But, if you feel yourself being spiteful or speaking untruths about someone just to better your own position, then you need to get yourself in check. You will never reach your full healing potential if you stay stuck in the gutter of negativity, and the only person who continues to suffer is you! Jealousy is a monster of a negative emotion. It can literally make your liver run hot, stress your adrenal glands, deplete your body of minerals and make you more acidic just from the buildup of negative emotions. On the flip side, feeling mof compassion, love, acceptance, happiness and joy are all extremely alkalizing for the body and good for your health.
How To Deal With Jealousy
Treat Jealousy as a Compliment for Yourself
When jealous people treat us unfairly (such as ignore us, insult us), it often brings our confidence down and such. We spent a long time wondering why they’re doing that to us, and maybe that is their purpose, they want to make you feel bad about yourself as they do. Well, don’t fall for it! I believe that if you understand that they’re actually jealous, it’s MUCH EASIER to accept the things they are doing, you can almost look at it with a positive light, such as there’s obviously something good you’re doing or you’re brilliant at something that other people want so desperately, to the point they would act in such manner.
So, if you have people who are jealous of you, be proud of that, let that be a compliment!
Do they actually know you?
I guarantee that most often, people who are jealous of you don’t know you all that well. People have this tendency to also fear the unknown, added to the fact that you’re brilliant or got something they want, it’s going to turn them off more.
The easiest way to handle that is to see if there’s a chance for you to actually get to know that person more. Perhaps when they “know” you, they will see you in a different perspective, rather than a threat to them!
Confront Them Face to Face or Stay Away
I know this is possibly the hardest thing you can ever do, but firstly, you have to look at your own situation. Every person’s situation is unique and I can only speak from experience, that sometimes when people are jealous, they’re not even really aiming it at the person, but the situation. Everyone handles jealousy differently. If you have a case of someone being seriously insulting or horrible towards you, then I recommend just blocking them from your life forever (if it’s on the internet). In real life, perhaps you will need to just stay away from this person.
If they seem semi reasonable and you feel that perhaps you can get through, maybe you will need to confront them and tell them what they are doing. When things are in the open, they are much easier to solve!
Solving the Situation
Could the situation be better? I think one of the jealousies that come up a lot in school is when there’s two friends, and then one more comes along and one of them is always jealous. In a way, I feel that the problem there is because the person in the middle who obviously knows both his/her friends but they don’t know each other doesn’t really know how to handle treating their two friends equally. See, we don’t like feeling as if we’re left out or that we’re about to lose something. If we can take away that feeling, that would probably remove the jealousies that came with it too!
However, that’s just one of them. If you’re successful at something and some people just happen to stare at you with green, envy eyes and they want the same without doing the work, that’s completely out of your control and you should not have to solve their situation!
So once again, you really have to look at your own situation.
Handling Jealous Girlfriend or Boyfriends
Is someone jealous of you because you’re hanging out with THEIR husband/boyfriend or wife/girlfriend when you have nothing but an innocent friendship? I often don’t find that as big of a problem because they aren’t really showing their jealousy in your face, but I feel that’s something the other person needs to work out as a couple and find out the reason why there are insecurities.
If your partner (romantic) is jealous of you for hanging out with other people, you need to first see how they are handling it. Are they forbidden you to do things you like, or are just worried? If they sound worried, you can always talk and assure them, but if they’re doing something that takes away your freedom, then there’s a big problem and I feel that from experience, these people turn out to have the tendency to abuse others and you should be very careful whether you want them in your life!
Continue to live your life confidently. Realize that there may be people in your life who have conflicts with you that are out of your control. Understand that you are not the only person they have most likely felt this way about, and know that it is not about you. It is truly about them.
For example, if your friend gets upset when you hang out with another friend, continue to live your life in a way that is good for you, and go to see your friend. The jealous person will not be helped if you start adapting your behaviors to their jealousy.
Stop talking about the situation with the jealous person. Talking about the situation a lot may make the situation even more of an issue for you. You don’t need to analyze the situation, because you already understand what is going on.
Stop talking about the situation with the jealous person. Talking about the situation a lot may make the situation even more of an issue for you. You don’t need to analyze the situation, because you already understand what is going on.
Kill the haters with kindness.
They really want you to fight back, so don’t. Be nice to them. For example, say “Good morning”, “Hello!” or “Have a good day.”
Acknowledge their presence but not their vitriol. If it becomes clear that they seek to dress you down in public, don’t even acknowledge their presence.
Do not be drawn into a tit for tat fight or argument. They’ve got mounting reasons to project their demons onto you, and you’ll only feed the anger, hate and jealousy if you start calling names, insulting or even trying to explain yourself.
They really want you to fight back, so don’t. Be nice to them. For example, say “Good morning”, “Hello!” or “Have a good day.”
Acknowledge their presence but not their vitriol. If it becomes clear that they seek to dress you down in public, don’t even acknowledge their presence.
Do not be drawn into a tit for tat fight or argument. They’ve got mounting reasons to project their demons onto you, and you’ll only feed the anger, hate and jealousy if you start calling names, insulting or even trying to explain yourself.
How to prevent jealousy before it happens
Sometimes you might be able to prevent jealousy from happening before it even happens!!
People who will envy you the most are the ones who are in need the most of what you posses. For example, your millionaire friend will never envy you if you bought a new average priced car but your friend who has no car is the one who will most likely be jealous of you.
People who will envy you the most are the ones who are in need the most of what you posses. For example, your millionaire friend will never envy you if you bought a new average priced car but your friend who has no car is the one who will most likely be jealous of you.
In the Solid Self confidence program o said that not all the people in need will become jealous or envious but only those who have personal weakness, self doubts and low self esteem will be jealous of you. in order to prevent jealousy from happening make sure you don’t show off a certain thing that you have in front of someone who really needs it.
Finally if someone is jealous of you then know that he is really suffering because of your achievements and that even if you left him without doing anything he would still pay for it by experiencing such emotions.
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